I find that we are generally guided in the direction that we are meant to take, especially when direction is exactly what we need.
This past year has pushed me to grow, to reframe some of my disempowering thoughts, and to become present. During this time I started to feel an immense amount of gratitude, not just for the wonderful things in my life, but also for the tough things such as negative people, confrontations and hectic schedules. How did I get here? Read on for Chapter 1 of a series of questions dedicated towards a Balanced Mind! In Chapter 1 I discuss two statements that I remind myself when I need to be redirected towards balance.
Can I Let Go of Judgment?
2. The fallacy of "I am right vs. You are wrong". In these situations we dehumanize the "other" as the enemy...we lose touch with the idea that all situations are neutral and the rest is ego. I am sure that many of you have been in a situation where you believe that your opinion, perspective or judgment is Right, and the "others" is wrong. Not only can this be mentally exhausting, but it can also take a toll on your emotional stability. So think of "I am right" as "I need to make others wrong in order to get a stronger sense of who I am" (placing you in a position of imagined moral superiority). Once you realize that, you start to see that all of this reactive behaviour is more of a reflection of your relationship with yourself, rather than an issue with the "other".
"The Primary cause of Unhappiness is never the situation but the thought about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral. It is what it is" -Eckhart Tolle
Can I Reframe these Disempowering Beliefs?
Being apart of the wellness world has pushed me in some amazing directions. I have had the pleasure of being involved with some phenomenal leadership conferences in recent months, and I have noticed a central theme that runs throughout all of them that has really stuck with me. The theme revolves around the idea of our limiting beliefs, and how they stunt our growth towards our potential.
So what do I mean by Disempowering Beliefs? I am talking about the beliefs you have about yourself, others and the world around you that hold you back from true empowerment. Examples include:
I want you to try to Reframe these beliefs. What do I mean by Reframe? Simply said, change the meaning or the experience by putting a new frame around it. When we change the meaning, we can alter the way we feel about it. Consider the following questions:
For example, one of my personal disempowering beliefs is that it never works out for me. I have had a long journey of (seemingly) disappointments in my life, so in order to reframe this thought pattern I can ask myself:
Q. What if this weren't true?
A. This would mean that everything has worked out for me
Q. What else might be true?
A. I have accomplished some major goals in my life including acquiring my own classroom, and starting my own business
Q. How has this challenge served me?
A. Well, although the obstacles I have overcome have caused feelings of defeat and hopelessness, I also learned to be resilient because of them.
Q. How can this create a shift in my life?
A. This would shift my life because I can use this strength and resilience to create the affirmation that I can only go up from here. These obstacles have pushed me to a place of determination, where success, peace and happiness is the only end result.
I encourage you to write down your Disempowering thoughts. On a separate piece of paper, Reframe each and every one of them. When you are finished, rip up those limiting beliefs and start fresh with a new perspective.
Feeling clear? Present? Chapter 2 is in the works! Stay tuned for more questions that will redirect your Mind towards clarity and peace
Hi! My name is Amber, I am a wife and mother to Piper June. Welcome to my blog. You will find my path towards natural health and wellness as well as my honest discoveries as a new mother. In all aspects of life, I strive to cultivate Balance through a mindful existence. I share my experiences as a mother, helpful product reviews and companies that I am passionate about for our family. I am so grateful for your visit xo