We are heading into month number Five with our new babe and let me tell you, the Four Month Sleep regression has gone through this house like a bat out of..well (Mamas) you know what I mean. Combine her sleep regression with the horrifically long Leap #4 (If you are following along with the Wonder Weeks), as well as a tooth coming in, and you have got a recipe for a cranky baby/mommy and daddy running on little to no sleep. It is during these times that I am reminded how beyond our control parenting can be. This realization was huge for me. More importantly, I discovered that the one thing we Can control is how we look at a situation as it presents itself. This discovery alone can determine the outcome of my day. So when I find myself in a situation that is particularly challenging such as a teething, sleepless babe I turn to Mantras in order to balance my mind.
My relationship with Mantras began through my love of Yoga. If you also practice Yoga, you might recall your class starting with a Mantra or Affirmation to reflect upon throughout your sequence. The word Mantra comes from a Sanskrit word meaning a sacred message or text, charm, spell counsel. The purpose of the mantra is to create a meditative sense of focus as you repeat a word or phrase. For me, a mantra has great power over my mind in a number of ways, but if I could define HOW it affects me, I would say that it comes down to 4 words: Insight, Balance, Clarity and Grounding. So, as a new mom in the trenches, I felt that those 4 words would make all the difference in times when I need to shift my perspective and the way I view a situation. A mantra gives me the opportunity to pause, breathe, clear my mind, focus, ground and re balance. More often than not, this single practice changes the mood, experience and outcome of my day with my baby girl.
If you are looking for a Shift in your day, or a Tool to keep in your back pocket for those challenging moments, try out these Mantras that I have chosen as my Favourite New Mom Mantras for a Balanced Mind. What I would suggest is, write these down in a place that is accessible. I had them on my chalk board. Eventually you will memorize them, and simply recite the Mantra that makes Most sense for that moment. Ask yourself, what message do I Need most right now. Or, give these a try, and then develop your Own Mantras! So without further adieu, here are a few mantras that help me! I hope they will help you to xo
This Feeling Is Temporary
You Do Not Have to Do Everything
You Are Doing the Best You Can
I Choose Calm Over Anxiety
I am proud of Myself for...
Today I release expectations of perfection
My Mothers intuition leads me to the Right Choices
Do What You Can, Let the Rest Go
I am the Best Mother for my Baby
Taking care of Myself is Part of Taking Care of my Baby
Throughout my pregnancy I was told by many that reading will help to prepare me for motherhood. Apparently the more I read, the easier life will be because I will have all the tools necessary...*cue the laughter from all new parents*.
There is literally no book that Fully prepares you my friends ..every single day is different, and although the books give you insight into what life might be like, and tools to tackle the biggest challenges babe throws your way, there's no "do this and life will be swell". So with that said, my advice (in my personal experience), is to learn your baby, trust your instincts (I promise they will kick in), and to find time for yourself. One of the main ways that I find time for myself is to walk with Piper in her carrier. Although it's technically not "Me" time in the sense of being alone, it's a great way for me to get fresh air ..breathe and clear my head.
So today I want to talk about that special time of Baby Wearing, whether I'm using my sling, wrap or carrier..it's all equally wonderful. One important piece of advice that I read during pregnancy was that baby Wearing is SO important...Here is an excerpt from one of my favourite books The Happiest Baby on the Block that really got my attention:
..."for thousands of years, the !Kung San (African bushman) lived in isolation on the plains of the Kalahari Desert...reports are particularly interesting because !Kung infants hardly ever cry...fussy bouts average only sixteen seconds. Careful examination of these African Moms reveals they hold their babies almost 24 hours a day...carry their babies in leather slings all day...
grow up Happy and Self Sufficient"
One of the most important aspects of baby wearing for me is the heart to heart connection. I also love that there are so many options out there!! Typically if I am just strolling around, popping into a store, or if I am just looking for something light (in hot temps) I will use a Ring Sling as seen above! My favourite ring slings come from potterandpehar.com and www.auraleaf.co.
If I am looking for something light like a ring sling, but I want more Hands Free/Secure support I will opt for a Wrap Carrier. My favourite company that I purchased my wrap carrier (seen below) is Kantha Bae - kanthabae.com
Finally, if we are planning on a tough hike or if I want a carrier that will keep Piper warm, I go with my Baby Bjorn! I really love that the Baby Bjorn comes with a weather protective cover that keeps P cozy! It's so easy to throw on, it keeps Piper super secure, and I don't have to worry about her slipping out at all!
This week is International Baby Wearing week, so I just had to share my passion for this beautifully close form of getting around with my little lady! Like I said in the beginning, it all comes down to knowing your baby, trusting your instincts and taking time for yourself...and Baby Wearing hits all three cornerstones of motherhood for me. Not only does it help me connect with Piper, but that connection deepens my bond and instinctual understanding of her needs. Oh AND it allows us to get out into nature, I get a good workout traveling about with my babe on board, and I am able to get things done with my hands free! So if you're a mommy to be ..go get a sling, wrap or carrier of your choice! If you're a mom debating the "Baby Wearing" route ..it's the best, I promise xo Enjoy the incredible benefits!
Hi! My name is Amber, I am a wife and mother to Piper June. Welcome to my blog. You will find my path towards natural health and wellness as well as my honest discoveries as a new mother. In all aspects of life, I strive to cultivate Balance through a mindful existence. I share my experiences as a mother, helpful product reviews and companies that I am passionate about for our family. I am so grateful for your visit xo