Towards the end of my pregnancy I started to experience pain around the top/center of my abdomen. I decided to bring it to my midwives attention, and she informed me that it is possible that my ab muscles are separating and that it is a common occurrence. Leaving her office, I said to Andrew..."how is this a common occurrence if I have never heard of this happening?". So I started to wonder whether it was just Me who had never heard of it! I started to ask around within my mommy network...and after talking to some of my most informed moms, I only came one other person who had experienced it! Not only was I shocked, but I became really concerned about whether or not this would be a problematic injury.
A month later after delivering Piper, I discovered that it IS most definitely a major injury, and not only that, but it would require physiotherapy to fix it! So how did this happen? And most importantly...how can You prevent it from happening when you're pregnant Or if you have already delivered your babe, how can you tell if you (unknowingly) have it to!
"Diastisas":Separation + "Recti":Rectus Abdominis
Our Library includes a mix of new, gifted and second hand books. Filling your child's book shelf can be very expensive if you are buying all of them brand new from your local Chapters/Indigo. Children's books (new) range from $10-$40, so if I were to fill my shelves and book basket with these I could easily spend $500! In order to save, I pop into my local Value Village or Salvation Army to check out their used children's books whenever I am in the area. The entire top shelf, as well as a number of the
"Our Library includes a mix of new, gifted and second hand books"
"...serve as inspiration during the late nights ahead!"
The changing portion of the shelf includes our change pad, some hand made blankets a friend recently gave us, a basket filled with receiving blankets/burp cloths, and some stuffies. Stay tuned for another post this week where I will discuss the organization of our Nursery drawers.
"...from the moment of birth, our environment, dialogue and actions communicate certain expectations and assumptions to our child"
"...Little Rose & Co. This company is one of my favourite local Etsy Shops...evoke the imagination and inspire"
A Comfortable Rocking Chair was important to us, however we wanted to be conscious of our budget. The upholstered Swivel/Rocking chairs at Boutique store, Babies R Us and Snugglebugz had price tags that made me think about all of the experiences I could give my babe for that price ...SO I hunted for our chair on Kijiji and Mommy pages on Facebook for months and months until I found the perfect one! Although we were looking for second hand, we really wanted to find one that was new or "gently loved".
We finally found THE rocking chair we will rock our daughter to sleep in, feed in, read in and sooth in.
The company that makes the chair is Monte and they specialize in quality products that are made with foam and fabric that are
"...foam and fabric that are toxin free, leather that has been recycled, and a solid hardwood base..."
Finally, I hope you will check out some of the Incredible small shops and craftsmen/women who have contributed to our space. Encourage your child's imagination and inspire them to believe that they can create anything by including original items hand crafted by artisans who put their heart and soul into each and every product they sell.
Thank you so much for reading along!!
After sharing our conception story, I have received comments such as, "what made your path more challenging than others?"...and to that I want to say that there is no way to compare one struggle to another. For Andrew and I, our struggle involved being told that we would never conceive naturally, and that holding a pregnancy would be very tough for me. Countless nights researching and advocating for my body, knowing that there must be more answers, as well as second, third and fourth opinions led me to feel lost and discouraged...until our Miracle came to us on a life changing day in September. It's important for me to reflect back on the beginning of our journey and to acknowledge all that went into making this child. I also want to say, to all those who hope to be mothers one day...from the very depths of my heart: may the stars align for you
Here is an excerpt from my post "You Have Finally Come to Us", that describes the morning we discovered that our struggle was over:
"I woke up that morning feeling different...I felt exhausted, nauseous and quite sore in the ..ahem, breasts. So, I decided to take a pregnancy test...at this point it was so normal for me to see negative tests that it didn`t even register that Positive was a possibility.
And there it was...the + we had been waiting for. Andrew wasn`t home, so I spent about 15 minutes pacing around ...crying, laughing and looking at myself in the mirror....we did it!"
To learn more about our journey and exactly HOW I advocated for my body and our ability to conceive, please do read the rest of that post!
So, with that said (..."we did it!") let's fast forward to the joyous day of our Baby Shower! At some point over the pregnancy we both decided that no corners would be cut, and that this celebration of life... this "shower", would be a magical way to celebrate with our closest friends and family --this long awaited gift. So the planning commenced, and it grew and grew until our house was transformed into a living representation of our vision.. with a theme we dubbed "To the Moon and Back", inspired by our favourite story "Guess How Much I Love You" by Sam McBratney.
It really was the most sunny, gorgeous, relaxing afternoon that I could possibly ask for, and all of it was captured by photographer Nicole Lewis --thank you so much for these images that we will always cherish. Finally, I have left out many of the images of the amazing people and their children who came out to celebrate in order to protect their privacy...so to those of you came and are not shown in these pictures, your presence is in every single image to us, and your support will never be forgotten, thank you for coming to celebrate our baby girl and for your generous gifts xo
I hope you enjoy the images of our "To the Moon and Back" Baby Shower!! I've included a full list of details and suppliers below!
Not only are the endless recommendations a lot to handle, but I started to feel uncomfortable with the varying perspectives and opinions out there! So I decided that it's time to sift through the crap being thrown at me...what are the facts? What are the exact statistics?
I want to make it clear that this wasn't an attempt for me to bypass limitations. I want the absolute best for my little cooking bun! I just felt powerless...like I couldn't make decisions for my pregnancy on my own...that it was a one-size-fits all deal! I also have a hard time being told that I can't do something, when some women do, some women do not...some countries do, some countries do not etc. Who is right? What is right for my child?
Here are some of the opinions that confused the hell out of me:
I am interested in empowering you to live a fulfilled and balanced life. I bring Balance into my world by listening deeply to what my body needs, by nourishing profound relationships with positivity in all forms, and by putting Self Care at the top of my priorities. I am honoured that you are here, following my journey.